Marriage ramblings

My sister is all set to get married next month. So this is how many of the conversations that I have these days go.

Me: Macha, Thangachi kalyanam fix aayidichi.

Friend: Oh.Superr da . Appo next nee thana???? ;-)

Me:Dey,next month thangachi kalyanam vachirukkom da.

Friend:Apdinna unakku route clear nu sollu.

Me: Sir, I need two days leave for the engagement of my sister.

Boss: Oh, Nice. When will u be back?

Me: Yeah as soon as it is done.

Boss: So is it it going to be your turn next,eh....?

Me: (grinning)

Umpteen number of such conversations have been happening over an over again. So there has been a lot of "stupid smile faces" and "grins" when the coversations go this way. The logic behind these conversations was unquestionable and I got to thinking as to when is it going to be my turn. When is it the right for me? Being the good Ol' Tapmiian that I am a lot of reflection went into this thought. Then it hit me like punch to my nose that I have been reflecting about the wrong question.

The right question is "Who is it gonna be?". What is it that I expect? How do I make the choice between "one girl" and all other girls in the world. Thought this way it just gets way too scary. What is basis that I should choose to help in making the conclusion. But one thing is certain. I have to figure out this all by myself.

A part of me says that the approach I have taken is flawed. I am taking the cold logic route to a emotional problem. I am looking at it as a problem to be solved instead of looking at it as a state of mind. But is it wrong to analyse this issue in this manner? If it is not correct to do it that way then I guess I have to go back and have a relook at my assumptions to check their veracity. That sounds like a typical case analysis.

So if in fact the assumptions are flawed then I have to fall back to the divine intervention theory professed by the umpteen number of romantic movies. This is like the "someone somewhere is made for you" , " If you desire something with a true heart, then the universe conspires to give it to you" and things like that. Here I have just one question. Are there people around who are genuinely convinced about such fairy tale stuff? I would like to meet up with coupla such people and get a piece of their mind. Maybe I can get a better understanding of such thought process. But if I am able to convince myself on these theories the answers for my questions will be very easy. I know them already. It is simple. You will automatically meet the person for you and when you do that something resembling a miracle will happen to tell you " yes,here is the one for you" and you will know. fanta-crap-astic.

Coming to think of it more deeply I think that here I am trying to make a choice without any options. Is this route going to be a simplistic solution because it can be argued that how can we be sure that the options that are taken are the right ones. We may end up with a set of options of convenience because those were the ones that were available with the broker whom the parents chose to visit. The believers of the divine intervention theory will say that fate will conspire to make the parents go to the right broker. Me being the champion of logic will ask the parents to get hold of a number of brokers and get an exhaustive list of probable soulmates.Following which a list can be made which can be converted to a shortlist and a shorter list till the lenth of the list reaches to just one record.

The knowledge that this decision will have a profound influence on a greater part of my life makes it that much more difficult. In this circumstances, when I actually make the decision I just hope to be clear on why have taken that choice. It is going to be a tough call to make and I hope take the call for the right reasons. I am certain of one thing though. I am not alone in my ramblings. I take comfort in the knowledge that there are countless others pondering over the same question. To all those people and myself I wish luck to find the best alternative among the right alternatives.

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